A Life of One's Own

“A method for discovering one’s true likes and dislikes, for finding and setting up a standard of values that is truly one’s own and not a borrowed mass-produced ideal” Joanna Field, "A Life of One’s Own"

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Carpe Weekend
Most of us are familiar with the phrase ‘Carpe Diem’, or ‘Seize the day’.  Yet rather than seizing every day, often it is only on the weekend that we feel we have time to stop, collect ourselves and breathe.  This feature is designed to help with that: a small suggestion, tip or hint for you to try (if you wish!) over the weekend.  Maybe it will make a difference to your life, maybe it won’t, maybe it will prompt some other thoughts.  Enjoy - and seize your weekend!
Right now in the UK, it’s hot. Very hot (well, hot by our standards!). Hot and sticky. Over the weekend it is forecast to be just as hot, only wet too. This weather can get to us, as can a mid-year lull. We’re over the halfway hump but unless you have a break booked then it can feel like a long slog from now until the next occasion that punctuates the year. So make like a schoolkid and declare this weekend your very own summer holiday! Do nothing, or as little as possible. Loll around. Re-read your favourite book from childhood. Maybe go swimming, or play a game in a local park. In short, remember whatever you loved from the summer holidays as a child and try to recreate that same feeling this weekend.
School’s out for summer!

Pictured: the Emirates Air Line across the Thames in east London, which I went on last weekend. A great way to see the city and it reminded me of the cable cars at theme parks, which I used to love. Admittedly this felt a lot sturdier and less dangerous!

Carpe Weekend

Most of us are familiar with the phrase ‘Carpe Diem’, or ‘Seize the day’.  Yet rather than seizing every day, often it is only on the weekend that we feel we have time to stop, collect ourselves and breathe.  This feature is designed to help with that: a small suggestion, tip or hint for you to try (if you wish!) over the weekend.  Maybe it will make a difference to your life, maybe it won’t, maybe it will prompt some other thoughts.  Enjoy - and seize your weekend!

Right now in the UK, it’s hot. Very hot (well, hot by our standards!). Hot and sticky. Over the weekend it is forecast to be just as hot, only wet too. This weather can get to us, as can a mid-year lull. We’re over the halfway hump but unless you have a break booked then it can feel like a long slog from now until the next occasion that punctuates the year. So make like a schoolkid and declare this weekend your very own summer holiday! Do nothing, or as little as possible. Loll around. Re-read your favourite book from childhood. Maybe go swimming, or play a game in a local park. In short, remember whatever you loved from the summer holidays as a child and try to recreate that same feeling this weekend.

School’s out for summer!

Pictured: the Emirates Air Line across the Thames in east London, which I went on last weekend. A great way to see the city and it reminded me of the cable cars at theme parks, which I used to love. Admittedly this felt a lot sturdier and less dangerous!

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Something from the Weekend

Years ago, someone told me that I’d never feel loved because the amount of love that I wanted was too great. For a long time, I believed them.

My something from the weekend lesson this week? It isn’t true.

Something from the Weekend

Years ago, someone told me that I’d never feel loved because the amount of love that I wanted was too great. For a long time, I believed them.

My something from the weekend lesson this week? It isn’t true.

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Carpe Weekend

Most of us are familiar with the phrase ‘Carpe Diem’, or ‘Seize the day’.  Yet rather than seizing every day, often it is only on the weekend that we feel we have time to stop, collect ourselves and breathe.  This feature is designed to help with that: a small suggestion, tip or hint for you to try (if you wish!) over the weekend.  Maybe it will make a difference to your life, maybe it won’t, maybe it will prompt some other thoughts.  Enjoy - and seize your weekend!

I’ve been on a few trains recently after a period of not catching one for a while. I usually enjoy such journeys, partly because I don’t have to take a train everyday and partly because they offer such great opportunities for daydreaming. Yes, I could do work or check email or some other serious, important endeavour. Or I could just stare out of the window, take in the world around me and let my mind wander. Often, of course, a startling insight bubbles up or I find the solution to a pressing problem magically comes to me when I’ve done so, but these useful outcomes don’t happen on tap. Daydreaming is not a to do list item. Daydreaming is freedom. Try it this weekend. Even just a few minutes; look out of window or, better, lie on some grass and stare at the sky. Allow your mind to drift…who knows where it will take you.

[Pictured are some photographs taken whilst I paused to daydream on Thursday - much needed time out during a busy day]

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Something from the Weekend

The picture shows the remains of three flag cakes after a 4th July party last Friday (Spanish, US and British flags, in case the leftovers don’t make it clear!). I ate a lot of “frosting” that day (icing to us Brits). I wanted more. More of everything - more cake, more time, more love, more attention, more adulation, more anything. Greed. Like nothing was enough.

And my Something from the Weekend lesson? That sometimes it’s okay to want more. Sometimes we feel greedy and crave excess and along it comes. We get what we want - and more.

Something from the Weekend

The picture shows the remains of three flag cakes after a 4th July party last Friday (Spanish, US and British flags, in case the leftovers don’t make it clear!). I ate a lot of “frosting” that day (icing to us Brits). I wanted more. More of everything - more cake, more time, more love, more attention, more adulation, more anything. Greed. Like nothing was enough.

And my Something from the Weekend lesson? That sometimes it’s okay to want more. Sometimes we feel greedy and crave excess and along it comes. We get what we want - and more.

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I have half a dozen favourite blogs about life, conscious living etc, and one of them is by Courtney Carver at Be More With Less.  I’m not sure how or when I first came across her, but she has been a regular in my inbox for at least a couple of years now (I’ve done her lovely advent course two years running and am already hoping that she runs it again this December).  
I was delighted, then, to see that she and I were thinking similarly about a particular topic - or, more specifically, a particular phrase.  See, her latest post is entitled ‘The Tiny Guide to Parke Diem’; like my Carpe Weekend idea, this plays on the well-known Latin phrase ‘Seize the day’ (Carpe Diem) but reworks it with a different emphasis.  
With Parke Diem, Carver is encouraging literally time in parks, but also relaxation more generally - letting go, unplugging, not always being ruled by a to do list.  Carpe Weekend is slightly different in that certain suggestions might be about not doing but some are about getting something sorted out.  Even so, I hope that it encourages readers to think differently about their time at the weekends, rather than just regarding it as a forty-eight hour period in which to catch up on everything that wasn’t achieved in the week.  That is no way to live and if that is how you feel about Saturdays and Sundays, or any regular days off you have, then I recommend you get over and absorb some of Carver’s tips for Parke Diem!

I have half a dozen favourite blogs about life, conscious living etc, and one of them is by Courtney Carver at Be More With Less.  I’m not sure how or when I first came across her, but she has been a regular in my inbox for at least a couple of years now (I’ve done her lovely advent course two years running and am already hoping that she runs it again this December).  

I was delighted, then, to see that she and I were thinking similarly about a particular topic - or, more specifically, a particular phrase.  See, her latest post is entitled ‘The Tiny Guide to Parke Diem’; like my Carpe Weekend idea, this plays on the well-known Latin phrase ‘Seize the day’ (Carpe Diem) but reworks it with a different emphasis.  

With Parke Diem, Carver is encouraging literally time in parks, but also relaxation more generally - letting go, unplugging, not always being ruled by a to do list.  Carpe Weekend is slightly different in that certain suggestions might be about not doing but some are about getting something sorted out.  Even so, I hope that it encourages readers to think differently about their time at the weekends, rather than just regarding it as a forty-eight hour period in which to catch up on everything that wasn’t achieved in the week.  That is no way to live and if that is how you feel about Saturdays and Sundays, or any regular days off you have, then I recommend you get over and absorb some of Carver’s tips for Parke Diem!

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Like last week, I am still reading Martha Beck’s Finding Your Own North Star.  Also like last week, I am still finding it just difficult.  Huge resistance is coming up.  This is despite being on to the seemingly ‘nice’ chapter where you think about good memories rather than the time you humiliated yourself in front of a vast audience (or even just one special person).  I started off all enthusiastic but this ebbed away the moment I reached the exercises…what is that all about?  All I can figure is that I’m scared of what I might find; or more specifically, what I might *not* find.  What if I can’t remember enough joyous moments to fill out the answer space? Ridiculous, I know.  As French novelist Colette observed, ‘What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realised it sooner’.
 

Like last week, I am still reading Martha Beck’s Finding Your Own North Star.  Also like last week, I am still finding it just difficult.  Huge resistance is coming up.  This is despite being on to the seemingly ‘nice’ chapter where you think about good memories rather than the time you humiliated yourself in front of a vast audience (or even just one special person).  I started off all enthusiastic but this ebbed away the moment I reached the exercises…what is that all about?  All I can figure is that I’m scared of what I might find; or more specifically, what I might *not* find.  What if I can’t remember enough joyous moments to fill out the answer space? Ridiculous, I know.  As French novelist Colette observed, ‘What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realised it sooner’.

 

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